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Is Ka’ba an Idol?

26 May

Is Ka’ba an idol?

When I say Idol worshipping is wrong, people tend to defend themselves saying, “Oh yeah! Even you people worship an idol?”
“Whaat? What are you talking about? We are the ones who say NO IDOL WORSHIPPING!”

“Hmm..then what’s that black big idol you prostate to?”
            “Why do you want to pray in a fixed direction?”

“Wow! what a legitimate question :)”
“You have the right to ask such questions and I appreciate them too!”
“Ask more questions so that you get more clarifications!”

This is the most common, popular, famous, blah blah blah whatever u say, question they ask.

Yusha Evens (ex-Christian) once said that when he realized the faults in Christianity, he started reading about other religions. He went to a library, and got a book named ‘All about Islaam’ (Pretty much attractive isn’t it?). He started reading n reading. You know what he read there? “Muslims are one who worship a black cubid in the middle of a desert!! (loooooooool :D:D:D:D). They kill the non-muslims wherever they find (erm..handsup i’m gonna shoot you hehe :D)”

He got scared and said “O my God! Thanks I didn’t see a Muslim yet” (Oh! poor boy :D)

This went along few days. And one fine day, he started chatting with his friend (I don’t know whether he was a close friend or a newbee). While chatting, that ‘friend’ asked him, “Do you know anything about Islaam?”.
  He said, “Oh Yeah! I KNOW EVERYTHING!!”. (??!!)

“Okey! What do you think about it?”
“They worship a black cube. They kill whomever they see.”

I guess that friend should have laughed till his heart because I did it when I heard this.
He asked, “What do you think about me?”
“Well, you are a nice person”.
“I am a Muslim.”
“WHAT?”
“I am a Muslim!”

He should have immediately realized that what he read in the book must be a manifest error, because he see his friend would never kill him. He started learning about Islam, from a ‘practicing’ Muslim and guess what HE IS A MUSLIM NOW! WORKING SERIOUSLY TO SPREAD THE MESSAGE TO OTHERS!

I know this is a bit off topic, but for those who wish to see his conversion story listen to this ‘How Bible brought me to Islam’:

I said all these things because, don’t judge Islam through some idiotic ill mannered books which try to cover the burning sun. Ask a Muslim directly or go to a masjid near your place to learn about it!

Okey lets get back to the actual question.

a) Is Ka’ba an idol??

         Lemme give you the difference between the ka’ba and an idol.

Ka’ba is a building. It stands upon a 25 cm (10 in) base, which projects outwards about 35 cm (14 in). It is approximately 13.1 m (43 ft) high, with sides measuring 11.03 m (36.2 ft) by 12.86 m (42.2 ft).

      Ka’ba is the first masjid build on the face of earth, to worship God.

“Indeed, the first House [of worship] established for mankind was that at (Becca) Makkah – blessed and a guidance for the worlds.” [AlQur’aan Chapter ‘The family of Imran’ 3:96]

People prayed inside the ka’ba. Are you ready to pray inside your idol? That’s impossible isn’t it?

Bilal (radhi allahu anhu) the mu’adhin (caller for prayer) of the Prophet’s time used to STAND ON THE TOP OF THE KA’BA, to call people for prayer.

I BET ANYONE CAN DO THE SAME TO YOUR IDOL???
YOU STAND ON IT’S TOP? YOU DARE PUT YOUR LEG ON IT?

We did, BECAUSE IT’S NOT OUR GOD!!!

b) What about the black stone, you kiss it?

        Okey, you say it’s an idol, just because we kiss it? Then I will quote the statement of Caliph Umar bin AlKhattaab (radhi allahu anhu), the one to whom Shaitaan feared.

Sahih Bukhari Volume 2, Book 26, Number 675:

Narrated Zaid bin Aslam from his father who said:

“Umar bin Al-Khattab addressed the Corner (black stone) saying, ‘By Allah! I know that you are a stone and can neither benefit nor harm. Had I not seen the Prophet touching (and kissing) you, I would never have touched (and kissed) you.’ Then he kissed it and said, ‘There is no reason for us to do Ramal (in Tawaf) except that we wanted to show off before the pagans, and now Allah has destroyed them.‘ ‘Umar added, ‘(Nevertheless), the Prophet did that and we do not want to leave it (i.e. Ramal).’

You can get 3 solutions from this narration:

1) The Black Stone in itself doesn’t possess any power. It can’t benefit it can’t harm.
(I don’t think you believe your idol does not possess any power?)

2) They did that during the pagans time, to show-off that they too are powerful now. (You should read the entire history to know the atrocities of the pagans and how much they belittled their own people just because they said MY GOD IS ONE!)

3) We would never touch the stone except that Prophet (Peace be upon him) had done it.

Personally I am saying, when I go to Makkah I don’t touch the stone. It’s so crowd there.  AND IT’S NOTHING WRONG IF YOU DONT TOUCH IT AND KISS IT! YOU KISS IT, YOU DON’T KISS IT..IT’S ALL THE SAME!!

BECAUSE THE BLACK STONE IS NOT OUR GOD!!!

c) Why do you pray in a fixed direction?

         Since all your claims went futile, you are picking up on directions now?!

I don’t see how praying towards ka’ba becomes an idol for you?
NOTE: We pray TOWARDS Ka’ba and not TO ka’ba.

(I guess you will not say the same to your idol, because you clearly know YOU ARE PRAYING TO THAT IDOL).

Praying towards a fixed direction, in rows and rows is an excellent way of organizing us. Lots of people converted to Islaam, just after they saw the prayer of Muslims in person. DO YOU KNOW THAT?
They wonder what an excellent system of prayer is this!!! You all are equal in front of your Lord, no matter white or black, rich or poor!

(Remember: What you see here is the top of the 3rd floor. The 1st and 2nd floors inside the masjid have been already filled!! And you will see people praying in the road if you are blessed being there. I wish you will get to go there one day, as a believer submitted to Him alone)

Actually, first God ordered us to pray towards Masjidul Aqsa in Jerusalem, and then the direction order came to Ka’ba.
If we worshiped direction as a God, we wouldn’t be changing directions here n there. But we simply do it BECAUSE IT’S THE ORDER OF GOD!

Hey, even if there is no ka’ba WE WOULD STILL BE PRAYING TO OUR LORD in an uniform way.
ARE YOU READY TO WORSHIP Y(OUR) GOD, WITHOUT AN IDOL???

d) See this picture, isn’t it a ‘shiva lingam’? (A shiva lingam is an idol of one of the Gods of Hinduism)

Hahahahaha.. this is one of the most funniest thing I had ever came around. 😀 😀 😀 😀

Its not shiva lingam or any other idol, it’s called ‘Makaam AlIbraahim’ meaning the place of Prophet Abraham (Peace be upon him).

Look at the close picture of that.

I think I don’t need to explain anymore, this picture speaks for itself!

Just because you see something ovel shaped, THAT BECOMES YOUR GOD?

What can I say about your foolishness? Its a gold coated glass my dear.

I know you are biting your tongue!

ISLAAM IS THE RELIGION WHICH SAYS, STOP IDOLATRY AND COME TO WORSHIP OF ONE TRUE GOD!

Actually there were 360 idols inside ka’ba, BEFORE THE PRE-ISLAMIC PERIOD. Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) destroyed all the idols and said, “WORSHIP BELONGS TO THE ONLY ONE GOD!!”

Till date, there is not even a single idol inside the entire city of Makkah and Madinah. BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME!

Next thinking –> Is God He or She or It?

A Delay in Prayer

22 May

There was only 15 minutes left before Salat-ul Isha.

He quickly made Wudhu and performed Salat-ul Maghrib.

While making Tasbih, he again remembered his grandmother and was embarrassed by how he had prayed.His grandmother prayed with such tranquillity and peace.

He began making Dua and went down to make Sajdah and stayed like that for a while.

He had been at work all day and was tired, so tired.
He awoke abruptly to the sound of noise and shouting.
He was sweating profusely.
He looked around.
It was very crowded.

Every direction he looked in was filled with people.
Some stood frozen looking around, some were running left and right and some were on their knees with their heads in their hands just waiting.
Pure fear and apprehension filled him as he realized where he was.
His heart was about to burst.

It was the Day of Judgment!

When he was alive, he had heard many things about the questioning on the Day of Judgment, but that seemed so long ago.

Could this be something his mind made up?

No, the wait and the fear were so great that he could not have imagined this.

The interrogation was still going on.
He began moving frantically from people to people to ask if his name had been called.
No one could answer him.

All of a sudden his name was called and the crowd split into two and made a passageway for him.
Two angels grabbed his arms and led him forward.
He walked with unknowing eyes through the crowd.
The angels brought him to the centre and left him there.
With his head down his whole life was passing in front of his
eyes like a movie.

He opened his eyes but saw only another world.

People were helping others.
He saw his father running from one lecture to the other, spending his
wealth in the way of Islam.
His mother invited guests to their house and one table was being set
while the other was being cleared.

He pleaded his case, I too was always on this path.
I helped others and spread the word of Allah.
I performed my Salah. I fasted in the month of Ramadhan.
Whatever Allah ordered us to do, I did.
Whatever he ordered us not to do, I did not.’
He began to cry and thought about how much he loved Allah.
He knew whatever he had done in life would be less than what Allah deserved and his only protector was Allah.

He was sweating like never before and was shaking all over.
His eyes were fixed on the scale, waiting for the final decision.

At last, the decision was made.

The two angels with sheets of paper in their hands turned to the crowd.
His legs felt like they were going to collapse.
He closed his eyes as they began to read the names of those people who were to enter Jahannam.

His name was read first.

He fell on his knees and yelled that this couldn’t be, ‘How could I go to Jahannam?


I served others all my life, I spread the word of Allah to others’.
His eyes had become blurry and he was shaking with sweat.

The two angels took him by the arms.

As his feet dragged, they went through the crowd and advanced toward the blazing flames of Jahannam.
He was yelling and wondered if there was any person who was going to help him.
He was yelling of all the good deeds he had done, how he had helped his father, his fasts, prayers, the Noble Qur’an that he read, he was asking if none of them would help him.

The Jahannam angels continued to drag him.
They had gotten closer to the Hellfire. He looked back and these were his last pleas.

Had not Rasulullah [salallaahu alaihi wasallam] said,
‘How clean would a person be who bathes in a river five times a day, so too does the Salah performed five times cleanse someone of their sins’

He began yelling, ‘My prayers? My prayers? My prayers.?’

The two angels did not stop, and they came to the edge of the abyss of Jahannam.
The flames of the fire were burning his face. He looked back one last time, but his eyes were dry of hope and he had nothing left in him.

One of the angels pushed him in. He found himself in the air and falling towards the flames.

He had just fallen five or six feet when a hand grabbed him by the arm and pulled him back.


He lifted his head and saw an old man with a long white beard.
He wiped some dust off himself and asked him, ‘Who are you?’

The old man replied, ‘I am your prayers’.

‘Why are you so late? I was almost in the Fire! You rescued me at the last minute before I fell in’.

The old man smiled and shook his head,
‘You always performed me at the last minute, did you forget?’ (And what of those who perform no prayers at all?)

At that instant, he blinked and lifted his head from Sajdah. He was in a sweat.
He listened to the voices coming from outside. He heard the Adhan for Salat-ul Isha and got up quickly and went to perform Wudhu.

Hope it helps open our eyes InshaAllah.

Original post found in http://www.blog.iloveallah.com

ATTENTION: This is only an imaginary fiction. THE TERROR OF JUDGEMENT DAY IS IN NO WAY COMPARABLE TO THIS!



Replies to ‘Idolators’!

11 May

Replies to Idolators:
As we saw earlier, idol worshiping is not favored by most of the religions. After all they are condemning it. But wherever you go, you see people worshiping created things (idols) as if they are worshiping the GOD.

The most common excuse they have is, “It’s hard to worship the unseen God.

“So, this allows you to worship something other than God?”
“Why is it hard for you when it is not hard for ‘billions’ of people?”

Another thing they say is, “God is present everywhere. Everything is God. We worship God through His creations”.

“Whoa! Worshipping God through His creations? Why do you need this ‘through’? It doesn’t seem logical?
Why can’t you worship God directly?
And again as I have said earlier in the post ‘Is Everything God?’ we can conclude “Everything is God’s” and everything is NOT God.

Anyways, worshiping the Creations doesn’t mean you worship the Creator. It simply means, ‘You worship the Creations‘!”. [And you know that’s wrong]

Again they say, “No no, it’s not the stone we worship. Its God present inside the stone”.

“This is another version of the previous question. God can never be inside a stone which is one of His creations”

“You see, we don’t worship all stones, only special kind of stones. Also gold, silver, brass”.

“You are in a very dangerous position you know. You are more special than a gold or a silver or a brass, aren’t you? So we worship YOU?

What is the authenticity of your practices? If we read your scriptures we find exactly the opposite. So where do you get these things from? From some stupid man or from God?”

“Ok fine, idol worship has no basis in our religion, its wrong. But.. common people can’t worship God without an image. It helps to focus our concentration. When we get trained we don’t need that image. Like in school, in 1st grade you have an idol but when you finish your final grade you don’t need an idol”.

“That’s good atleast you realize its wrong.

Just because a layman cannot worship God without an image, is it ok for him to worship something other than God?

To focus our concentration, there are numerous things we can do, but an idol can never help you. Infact it leads to destruction.

      How many people know what they are worshipping is not God?
      How many people know they have been cheated n cheated for centuries saying that this is their God?

And coming back to the school :D,
    You will not teach your child something wrong in 1st grade and then say he will be corrected later. Would you teach him 2+2=3 in 1st grade and then say its 4 in his final class? Ofcourse not!  

      Then why would you do this to God, the very most important thing in life?
How many people really reach that final stage?
They die in that evil state worshipping a stone, believing it to be the God for all their life. Its sorrowful.”

{Idol worship, the nearest analogy I can provide you is like calling someone else as one’s father, while his real father is another person. Rejection of one’s father and attributing this very honorable position to another person is a very disgraceful, abominable and disgusting thing any human being will think of doing.

The only one true God is the Creator, Sustainer, Cherisher and Provider. It is He only deserves our worship.

If we make idols of human beings, animals and other created objects, for the purpose of worship, my simple question is, do we earn the Blessings or the Wrath of God?

This is the unpardonable sin any human being can commit. The seriousness of this sin will not equal the analogy provided above.} [1]

Lets get rid of such sins, stop0think!

How to Memorize AlQur’an at Age 7!

1 May

 

This is a very inspiring story for those of us who ‘strive’ to memorize the words of Allaah and for those who strive to make their children memorize it.

        I read this ‘WORD BY WORD’  and hope you would do too!

One Mother’s Recipe on how she accomplished it with her daughter!
Commentary by Muhammad Alshareef

[Chapter 1]My SMART Result
What was the mother specifically aiming to achieve?

My SMART Result:

I was specifically aiming for her to memorize all the Qur’an in about 3 years (as I had heard that people normally finish in 3-5 years). However, she finished in 2.5 alhamdullilah.

I had different targets during this time. In the beginning I had no target. Once we got the hang of it (after about 5 juz) we targeted one juz a month (which was a page/day).

By the end, though, my target was to do a juz a week.

[Commentary]
1. Notice how even though it was her daughter that was memorizing, SHE adopted the goals as
if it were her own. Awesome.
2. Notice as well that she adjusted her specific results as time went by. She was flexible. When
her daughter got stronger, she adjusted her results to match that strength.


[Chapter 2] My Purpose
Why was this goal of her daughter memorizing the Qur’an at such a young age an absolute must?

My Purpose

Overview:
1. Why was this an absolute MUST! What this meant to me
2. Life taught me
3. Dream Bigger Dreams

[I ALWAYS WANTED IT]

I always wanted all my children to be huffadh, [ROLE MODEL] like Umm Sulaim’s
sons, radiAllahu anhum. However, I never thought that I will end up teaching them myself. I was waiting for a madrasah to start in our city for girls, when my husband suggested that I should try doing it at home until something starts for girls. Although, it was a very informal suggestion but it actually turned practical only by the permission of Allah.

[BEST GIFT PARENT CAN GIVE]

I think this is the best gift parents can offer to their children.

[SUCCESS OF HEREAFTER MOST IMPORTANT]

To me, true love is not when you want to see your child successful in this dunya only, but to see their ultimate success, which is the success of the akhira. And if they get that then it automatically offers the success of this dunya too, bi idhniAllah.

Often times, as parents, we limit our vision for our kids within the bounds of this
dunya alone. We want more and more for our children for this dunya.

From the day they are born, we start setting ‘high goals’ for them, from having good education, to best job, to big house and a latest model car etc. etc. and it never ends.

[OTHERS HAVE SMALL DREAMS FOR ISLAM, NOT ME]

Why then we don’t have the same standards for the akhira?! Will we ever
compromise with just elementary school education for our children? Why then just once-a-week-Sunday school suffice us? Will we ever let them stop with a high school diploma? Why then only 5 daily prayers, fasting in Ramadan, giving zakah and offering one hajj makes us happy?! Why say ‘ that as long as they enter jannah…’?! Why not, ‘ I want my children to enter Jannat-ul-Firdous and not just jannah, I want my child to be standing among the Sahaba, in the company of the Prophet sallahualaihi wasalam on the Day of Judgement (inshaAllah) and not just with regular Muslims’. Why do we have limited goals for our children for their akhira and unlimited for the dunya!

[ULTIMATE GOAL: LEARNING THE DEEN OF ALLAH]

And that is perhaps why memorizing Qur’an was a baby step towards making her learn the deen of Allah.

[FILL THEIR BRAINS WITH THE MOST PRECIOUS OF KNOWLEDGE, THE QURAN]

If we are given an empty shelf to decorate, we will start by putting the more
expensive and valuable materials in the front and then if we have space left we will put the extra things, and to me this is exactly how the children are. They are given to us with empty minds and it is our, parents, responsibility to fill our children’s brain with something valuable first.

[ROLE MODELS, IMAM AHMAD’S MOTHER]

Among the heroes of Islam, 3 men were always very inspiring to me: Imam Ahmad, Ibn Taymiyyah and Sh. Bin Baz (rahimuhullah). And Imam Ahmad was a prime example of not only a hufidh in young age but even his mother’s role was such a big inspiration.

[I DID THIS BECAUSE WHEN I START SOMETHING I FINISH IT, IT’S MY IDENTITY]

Why was I so bent on her finishing at a young age.because this is just how I am. When I start something believing in it, I just can’t stop in the middle. And I must admit that when I started with my daughter it was like throwing an arrow in the dark. I only got more encouraged we went along. I started with her when she was 5. She was in 1st grade home school. I figured that even if it takes her 3 years to memorize and she misses out on homeschooling, she will still not be behind in her secular studies.

[LESSONS ALONG THE PATH]

And the more my daughter kept memorizing the more I realized that:

* Small children are easy to please. Small rewards mean a lot to them and they are satisfied with little. Whereas older children have ‘bigger’ demands.

* Younger children’s world revolves around their parents. Honestly, sometimes
even just offering to give her 10 kisses will motivate her to finish her lesson! I don’t think this would have worked with an older child!

* Small children (especially those who have not been to school) don’t know what they miss out by staying home. Older children (especially teenagers) know the ‘fun’ of outside world and it is tougher for them to sacrifice.

* Small children are easy to discipline, intimidate and control.

* I believed that whatever a child memorizes in an early age is not easily
forgettable. And besides, if she finishes in an early age, she will have a LOT of time to review and the more she reviews the stronger it will stay in her memory,
inshaAllah.

[MEMORZING QURAN WAS “NOT” THE ULTIMATE GOAL, THERE WAS SOMETHING BIGGER]

Besides, I had a bigger goal in my mind (may Allah az Zawjal accepts it and make her successful). As I said, memorization of Qur’an was just the first step. I wanted her to do memorize Bukhari and Muslim as well. I thought it will take a lot of time and our lives are short, so the sooner the better.

Although, now she is memorizing Bulugh-ul-Maram and Riyadh-us-Saliheen (sh.
Yasir suggested these books instead of Bukhari & Muslim). She alternates between two books, one baab from each.

[IMPLEMENTATION OF HIGHER DREAM]

She also had the opportunity to travel to Egypt last year and stayed there for the summer. She attended Cairo Institute. Now she is continuing with the same institute through the internet & webcam. She has the same teacher as she had in Egypt and it is walhamdullialh working out great. She can speak fushah Arabic now. They have a total of 12 levels of the course, she just finished her 7th level. Now inshaAllah she will be doing ‘balagha’ which her teacher said is the most difficult and goes into the Qur’anic style Arabic. I recommend this institute to all the parents!

[Chapter 3] My Massive Action Plan
What were the top 10 things she did to reach the end zone?


My Massive Action Plan
Overview:

1. The top 12 massive actions I took
2. The 80/20 rule: The 2 most important actions
3. Final Advice

1. [NO.1 MAKE DUA!]

Make du’a: and by Allah, if it wasn’t for His Mercy, this would have never happened. The days I would forget to make du’a, that day would be terrible.

It is a weapon of every believer and a ‘special’ weapon of every mother! So as
much as she uses it, it will only help her and her child.

2. [CHILD KNOWS REWARD AND HAS PURPOSE]

Motivation (hers and mine): Constantly reminding her why she was doing it, reading her the meaning of her lesson, talking much about Jannah and jahannum. As My daughter says that had she not knew the reward, she would have never done it. (And yes, the parents need to realize that the children, even as small as 5, can have a good concept of Jannah and hellfire).


3. [CELEBRATIONS]

Positive reinforcement: Set up a reward system. She had a daily reward, weekly
reward and ‘juz’ reward. Daily reward was necessary because small children can’t focus for too long. So to make her wait for the whole week was not working out.

We strictly followed the madni mushaf and went by lines. For every line she
memorized, she would get 10c and this was to encourage her to take more new
lesson. (when she started taking a lot, I started rewarding by page!! )

Weekly reward: if she won’t take any days off and finish her lesson throughout the week, she will get to go somewhere ‘fun’ on the weekend. Sometimes, that ‘fun’ place was simply going to a relative’s house (as I said, ‘smaller children are easier to please’).

And for every juz she memorized, she will get a party where all her friends will
come over, play games, eat and she would get gifts.


4. [START AT FAJR]

Waking up after fajr. I didn’t realize the barakah in time until I actually started
waking my daughter up early to do her lesson. If we hadn’t done this, she might
have still be memorizing.


5. [DISCIPLINE]

Fear factor: I still don’t know if this is the right thing to do or not. I could’ve been more patient. But I don’t know if there was only love and reward and no
‘intimidation’ then how successfully we would have achieved this task.

If she wouldn’t finish her lesson, she wouldn’t get to play outside or ride her bike etc. She was punished but I would always talk to her later about the importance of finishing what she was supposed to do each day. And I tried not link the punishment to the Qur’an rather to her discipline and misbehaving.

Also, being strict helps because otherwise when a mother is also a teacher,
children like to beg and nag for smaller lesson or days off and act ‘spoiled’.


6. [CONSTANT REMINDER OF OBJECTIVE *Important]

Encouragement: Everything that was done for her during these 2.5 years, was
associated to her memorizing Qur’an. Even if I cooked something that she liked
was because ‘she was memorizing Qur’an’. Reminding her throughout the day that she was special because she was doing something special and not everyone gets to do it. (But at the same time, kept reminding her that she was doing this to please Allah alone)


7. [SPECIAL REWARDS]

More rewards: these were the ‘special’ rewards from her father and she did take
them very seriously. These were set after every 5 juz.

When she had last 15 juz left, we motivated her with a ‘big party’ not only with her friends but this time she would even get to invite their parents and she got VERY excited! SubhanAllah she was really looking forward to it and finished 15 juz in 3 months!


8. [UNBREAKABLE SCHEDULE]

Discipline: A schedule was set up. We wouldn’t go any where during the day time (usually until 5pm), no phone calls, no social activities except for the halqah, doctor’s appointments etc.


9. [REAL LOVE: YOU’LL THANK ME ONE DAY]

I don’t know what to call this. Regardless of all the encouragement, rewards AND intimidation, some days (or should I say many days) I would have to simply ‘force’ her to memorize and review. This is where the ‘fear factor’ comes in handy. I would just tell her that inshaAllah one day she will appreciate what she was doing. And perhaps this is where I had to be more disciplined and strong and didn’t give in.


10. [PEP TALKS]

Good communication: This was not only good for my daughter but even for me.
Whenever, I was not able to be patient with her, talking to her about it later on only relieved my guilt feelings. This may not seem so important but I believe that it makes a big difference.


11. [ACCEPT FEEDBACK]

I never discouraged questions or complaints from her so I knew exactly what would be going through her mind, and I would talk to her about it. Like why she was unable to play like neighbor’s children outside, or why she couldn’t go to school, or why she was the only one memorizing etc.


12. [COMMUNICATE INTENTIONS AND PURPOSE]

Especially the year before she finished, I had gotten very busy with my own studies and dawah events and ended up wasting a lot of her time. Then right after the conference finished, I felt so guilty and promised myself to make it up to her. So I dropped everything that I was involved in and completely concentrated on my daughter. I had a long conversation with her and I explained to her that we had wasted a lot of time and she was able to do much more then what she was doing, so why not increase our lesson but It will require some sacrifice from her and I explained to her that she may not be able to play as much as she used to, or go out as much or spend her weekends at grandma’s etc.

I think when adults communicate with the children and explain to them why they are doing certain things, the children feel the ‘responsibility’ of doing what the adults are asking them to do.

And I do believe that the communication with her helped a lot because she knew exactly why she had to be on a very rigorous schedule of 8am to 8pm (in
the last few months) And subhanAllah she did move from on page/day to 2/day to 3/day to 4/day and finally 9/day)


[THE 80/20 MOST IMPORTANT: DUA AND FAJR]

The top two actions will be: making du’a and starting lesson after fajr.


[GOT A BOY?]

There is just one thing that I must mention though. All my experience is with a girl. Now that my son is memorizing, I feel like boys are very different from girls-good and bad.


[FINAL ADVICE: PARENTS MUST BE RIGHTEOUS]

And although you didn’t ask for this but there is just one thing I want to say:

During all this time of memorization (and of course even after this) parents must
watch out their own actions too because this is not only an achievement
for the child but it is a blessing and Rahma of Allah to be a parent of someone who has memorized the Qur’an and this blessing is not given to everyone. A wrong action on parent’s part may affect the child too. We must improve our actions and we must keep our intentions pure so our children can turn out even better, inshaAllah.

P.S. One more thing. I don’t have a TV at home but once in a while I do let my children watch something on computer DVD.

But whenever My daughter would watch something, the next she would have a hard time doing her lesson and I would regret why I let her watch the cartoon! So minimize the TV in their lives when they are memorizing Qur’an (and even afterwards!)

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