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How to Memorize AlQur’an at Age 7!

1 May

 

This is a very inspiring story for those of us who ‘strive’ to memorize the words of Allaah and for those who strive to make their children memorize it.

        I read this ‘WORD BY WORD’  and hope you would do too!

One Mother’s Recipe on how she accomplished it with her daughter!
Commentary by Muhammad Alshareef

[Chapter 1]My SMART Result
What was the mother specifically aiming to achieve?

My SMART Result:

I was specifically aiming for her to memorize all the Qur’an in about 3 years (as I had heard that people normally finish in 3-5 years). However, she finished in 2.5 alhamdullilah.

I had different targets during this time. In the beginning I had no target. Once we got the hang of it (after about 5 juz) we targeted one juz a month (which was a page/day).

By the end, though, my target was to do a juz a week.

[Commentary]
1. Notice how even though it was her daughter that was memorizing, SHE adopted the goals as
if it were her own. Awesome.
2. Notice as well that she adjusted her specific results as time went by. She was flexible. When
her daughter got stronger, she adjusted her results to match that strength.


[Chapter 2] My Purpose
Why was this goal of her daughter memorizing the Qur’an at such a young age an absolute must?

My Purpose

Overview:
1. Why was this an absolute MUST! What this meant to me
2. Life taught me
3. Dream Bigger Dreams

[I ALWAYS WANTED IT]

I always wanted all my children to be huffadh, [ROLE MODEL] like Umm Sulaim’s
sons, radiAllahu anhum. However, I never thought that I will end up teaching them myself. I was waiting for a madrasah to start in our city for girls, when my husband suggested that I should try doing it at home until something starts for girls. Although, it was a very informal suggestion but it actually turned practical only by the permission of Allah.

[BEST GIFT PARENT CAN GIVE]

I think this is the best gift parents can offer to their children.

[SUCCESS OF HEREAFTER MOST IMPORTANT]

To me, true love is not when you want to see your child successful in this dunya only, but to see their ultimate success, which is the success of the akhira. And if they get that then it automatically offers the success of this dunya too, bi idhniAllah.

Often times, as parents, we limit our vision for our kids within the bounds of this
dunya alone. We want more and more for our children for this dunya.

From the day they are born, we start setting ‘high goals’ for them, from having good education, to best job, to big house and a latest model car etc. etc. and it never ends.

[OTHERS HAVE SMALL DREAMS FOR ISLAM, NOT ME]

Why then we don’t have the same standards for the akhira?! Will we ever
compromise with just elementary school education for our children? Why then just once-a-week-Sunday school suffice us? Will we ever let them stop with a high school diploma? Why then only 5 daily prayers, fasting in Ramadan, giving zakah and offering one hajj makes us happy?! Why say ‘ that as long as they enter jannah…’?! Why not, ‘ I want my children to enter Jannat-ul-Firdous and not just jannah, I want my child to be standing among the Sahaba, in the company of the Prophet sallahualaihi wasalam on the Day of Judgement (inshaAllah) and not just with regular Muslims’. Why do we have limited goals for our children for their akhira and unlimited for the dunya!

[ULTIMATE GOAL: LEARNING THE DEEN OF ALLAH]

And that is perhaps why memorizing Qur’an was a baby step towards making her learn the deen of Allah.

[FILL THEIR BRAINS WITH THE MOST PRECIOUS OF KNOWLEDGE, THE QURAN]

If we are given an empty shelf to decorate, we will start by putting the more
expensive and valuable materials in the front and then if we have space left we will put the extra things, and to me this is exactly how the children are. They are given to us with empty minds and it is our, parents, responsibility to fill our children’s brain with something valuable first.

[ROLE MODELS, IMAM AHMAD’S MOTHER]

Among the heroes of Islam, 3 men were always very inspiring to me: Imam Ahmad, Ibn Taymiyyah and Sh. Bin Baz (rahimuhullah). And Imam Ahmad was a prime example of not only a hufidh in young age but even his mother’s role was such a big inspiration.

[I DID THIS BECAUSE WHEN I START SOMETHING I FINISH IT, IT’S MY IDENTITY]

Why was I so bent on her finishing at a young age.because this is just how I am. When I start something believing in it, I just can’t stop in the middle. And I must admit that when I started with my daughter it was like throwing an arrow in the dark. I only got more encouraged we went along. I started with her when she was 5. She was in 1st grade home school. I figured that even if it takes her 3 years to memorize and she misses out on homeschooling, she will still not be behind in her secular studies.

[LESSONS ALONG THE PATH]

And the more my daughter kept memorizing the more I realized that:

* Small children are easy to please. Small rewards mean a lot to them and they are satisfied with little. Whereas older children have ‘bigger’ demands.

* Younger children’s world revolves around their parents. Honestly, sometimes
even just offering to give her 10 kisses will motivate her to finish her lesson! I don’t think this would have worked with an older child!

* Small children (especially those who have not been to school) don’t know what they miss out by staying home. Older children (especially teenagers) know the ‘fun’ of outside world and it is tougher for them to sacrifice.

* Small children are easy to discipline, intimidate and control.

* I believed that whatever a child memorizes in an early age is not easily
forgettable. And besides, if she finishes in an early age, she will have a LOT of time to review and the more she reviews the stronger it will stay in her memory,
inshaAllah.

[MEMORZING QURAN WAS “NOT” THE ULTIMATE GOAL, THERE WAS SOMETHING BIGGER]

Besides, I had a bigger goal in my mind (may Allah az Zawjal accepts it and make her successful). As I said, memorization of Qur’an was just the first step. I wanted her to do memorize Bukhari and Muslim as well. I thought it will take a lot of time and our lives are short, so the sooner the better.

Although, now she is memorizing Bulugh-ul-Maram and Riyadh-us-Saliheen (sh.
Yasir suggested these books instead of Bukhari & Muslim). She alternates between two books, one baab from each.

[IMPLEMENTATION OF HIGHER DREAM]

She also had the opportunity to travel to Egypt last year and stayed there for the summer. She attended Cairo Institute. Now she is continuing with the same institute through the internet & webcam. She has the same teacher as she had in Egypt and it is walhamdullialh working out great. She can speak fushah Arabic now. They have a total of 12 levels of the course, she just finished her 7th level. Now inshaAllah she will be doing ‘balagha’ which her teacher said is the most difficult and goes into the Qur’anic style Arabic. I recommend this institute to all the parents!

[Chapter 3] My Massive Action Plan
What were the top 10 things she did to reach the end zone?


My Massive Action Plan
Overview:

1. The top 12 massive actions I took
2. The 80/20 rule: The 2 most important actions
3. Final Advice

1. [NO.1 MAKE DUA!]

Make du’a: and by Allah, if it wasn’t for His Mercy, this would have never happened. The days I would forget to make du’a, that day would be terrible.

It is a weapon of every believer and a ‘special’ weapon of every mother! So as
much as she uses it, it will only help her and her child.

2. [CHILD KNOWS REWARD AND HAS PURPOSE]

Motivation (hers and mine): Constantly reminding her why she was doing it, reading her the meaning of her lesson, talking much about Jannah and jahannum. As My daughter says that had she not knew the reward, she would have never done it. (And yes, the parents need to realize that the children, even as small as 5, can have a good concept of Jannah and hellfire).


3. [CELEBRATIONS]

Positive reinforcement: Set up a reward system. She had a daily reward, weekly
reward and ‘juz’ reward. Daily reward was necessary because small children can’t focus for too long. So to make her wait for the whole week was not working out.

We strictly followed the madni mushaf and went by lines. For every line she
memorized, she would get 10c and this was to encourage her to take more new
lesson. (when she started taking a lot, I started rewarding by page!! )

Weekly reward: if she won’t take any days off and finish her lesson throughout the week, she will get to go somewhere ‘fun’ on the weekend. Sometimes, that ‘fun’ place was simply going to a relative’s house (as I said, ‘smaller children are easier to please’).

And for every juz she memorized, she will get a party where all her friends will
come over, play games, eat and she would get gifts.


4. [START AT FAJR]

Waking up after fajr. I didn’t realize the barakah in time until I actually started
waking my daughter up early to do her lesson. If we hadn’t done this, she might
have still be memorizing.


5. [DISCIPLINE]

Fear factor: I still don’t know if this is the right thing to do or not. I could’ve been more patient. But I don’t know if there was only love and reward and no
‘intimidation’ then how successfully we would have achieved this task.

If she wouldn’t finish her lesson, she wouldn’t get to play outside or ride her bike etc. She was punished but I would always talk to her later about the importance of finishing what she was supposed to do each day. And I tried not link the punishment to the Qur’an rather to her discipline and misbehaving.

Also, being strict helps because otherwise when a mother is also a teacher,
children like to beg and nag for smaller lesson or days off and act ‘spoiled’.


6. [CONSTANT REMINDER OF OBJECTIVE *Important]

Encouragement: Everything that was done for her during these 2.5 years, was
associated to her memorizing Qur’an. Even if I cooked something that she liked
was because ‘she was memorizing Qur’an’. Reminding her throughout the day that she was special because she was doing something special and not everyone gets to do it. (But at the same time, kept reminding her that she was doing this to please Allah alone)


7. [SPECIAL REWARDS]

More rewards: these were the ‘special’ rewards from her father and she did take
them very seriously. These were set after every 5 juz.

When she had last 15 juz left, we motivated her with a ‘big party’ not only with her friends but this time she would even get to invite their parents and she got VERY excited! SubhanAllah she was really looking forward to it and finished 15 juz in 3 months!


8. [UNBREAKABLE SCHEDULE]

Discipline: A schedule was set up. We wouldn’t go any where during the day time (usually until 5pm), no phone calls, no social activities except for the halqah, doctor’s appointments etc.


9. [REAL LOVE: YOU’LL THANK ME ONE DAY]

I don’t know what to call this. Regardless of all the encouragement, rewards AND intimidation, some days (or should I say many days) I would have to simply ‘force’ her to memorize and review. This is where the ‘fear factor’ comes in handy. I would just tell her that inshaAllah one day she will appreciate what she was doing. And perhaps this is where I had to be more disciplined and strong and didn’t give in.


10. [PEP TALKS]

Good communication: This was not only good for my daughter but even for me.
Whenever, I was not able to be patient with her, talking to her about it later on only relieved my guilt feelings. This may not seem so important but I believe that it makes a big difference.


11. [ACCEPT FEEDBACK]

I never discouraged questions or complaints from her so I knew exactly what would be going through her mind, and I would talk to her about it. Like why she was unable to play like neighbor’s children outside, or why she couldn’t go to school, or why she was the only one memorizing etc.


12. [COMMUNICATE INTENTIONS AND PURPOSE]

Especially the year before she finished, I had gotten very busy with my own studies and dawah events and ended up wasting a lot of her time. Then right after the conference finished, I felt so guilty and promised myself to make it up to her. So I dropped everything that I was involved in and completely concentrated on my daughter. I had a long conversation with her and I explained to her that we had wasted a lot of time and she was able to do much more then what she was doing, so why not increase our lesson but It will require some sacrifice from her and I explained to her that she may not be able to play as much as she used to, or go out as much or spend her weekends at grandma’s etc.

I think when adults communicate with the children and explain to them why they are doing certain things, the children feel the ‘responsibility’ of doing what the adults are asking them to do.

And I do believe that the communication with her helped a lot because she knew exactly why she had to be on a very rigorous schedule of 8am to 8pm (in
the last few months) And subhanAllah she did move from on page/day to 2/day to 3/day to 4/day and finally 9/day)


[THE 80/20 MOST IMPORTANT: DUA AND FAJR]

The top two actions will be: making du’a and starting lesson after fajr.


[GOT A BOY?]

There is just one thing that I must mention though. All my experience is with a girl. Now that my son is memorizing, I feel like boys are very different from girls-good and bad.


[FINAL ADVICE: PARENTS MUST BE RIGHTEOUS]

And although you didn’t ask for this but there is just one thing I want to say:

During all this time of memorization (and of course even after this) parents must
watch out their own actions too because this is not only an achievement
for the child but it is a blessing and Rahma of Allah to be a parent of someone who has memorized the Qur’an and this blessing is not given to everyone. A wrong action on parent’s part may affect the child too. We must improve our actions and we must keep our intentions pure so our children can turn out even better, inshaAllah.

P.S. One more thing. I don’t have a TV at home but once in a while I do let my children watch something on computer DVD.

But whenever My daughter would watch something, the next she would have a hard time doing her lesson and I would regret why I let her watch the cartoon! So minimize the TV in their lives when they are memorizing Qur’an (and even afterwards!)

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Little About Me

25 Apr

 

I got a response from one of my friends..we used to have a little chit chat about Islam..bt this conversation is worth posting here..it may clarify certain facts about me and it may help others.

Give it a read!

“Great work 🙂
Big problem in this era of dot com is good amount of religious content is available on net but authenticating the same is real real test for the surfer. Most of the Islamic sites on internet are misleading.

One day I thought of reading biography of first Caliph Hz.Abu Bakr Siddiq(RZ) and with my search query I got beautiful pdf. I started reading and every thing mention there was absolutely correct and nothing was contradicting but when I reached middle of pdf there was some thing written about sect Khadiyaani. The author is praising the sect and its founder, I was shocked to see that and deleted that pdf.

Similarly for the newbies its is really difficult to learn Islam on internet, but the kind of work you are doing is really good and its our duty of promote those sites among Ummah.

What is your opinion on Abdul Wahab Najdi? As far as I know he is the real biddah(innovator) in Islam and most of his teachings are misleading to innocent muslims. I heard that guy is khawaraji and people who are following him are extremist.
Hadith of Prophet Mohammed(Peace be upon him) “Jews were divided into 72 sects and my Ummah will be divided into 73 sects and out of 73 sects only one sect will enter into Heaven”
So every follower of different sects raises this question which is that sect who are on correct path?

May Allah(SWT) by the grace of blessed Sandal of Prophet Muhammed(PUBH) guide us the true path Ameen.”

My Reply:

Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

      What u r saying is true.. many sites leads to misinterpretation of Islaam, mostly shiates.. and people start thinking grave worship is good too!! na’oodubillah we seek refuge in Allah..

 

      To be frank.. i don really knw who Abdul Wahab Najdi is…

if He was to be an inhabitant of Paradise..i would be questioned by Allah for my words..

If he was a deviant, i hv nothing to talk abt him.. We dont know.. Allah knows…so lemme refrain from saying anything in shaa allah..

 

      Yes.. the hadith u quoted is a well famous hadith..and everyone who quotes this says they are on that right path..lol allaahu musta’aan..

 

      If u ask me what I am going to say…

 

There r people who say.. take it only from qur’aan n sunnah… and there r people who say blindly follow an imaam..he is infallible..

 

       Bt not me..as Islam is the middle path.. i go in the middle path too.. I need Qur’an n sunnah as lungs.. and good righteous imaams as the nasal pathway for air to enter lungs..

 

     U see.. air can have impurities too.. what i take from imaams ‘may’ hv some __ too..bt once it reaches the lungs (qur’an n sunnah)..oxygen gets separated and the impurity goes out via the same path..

 

 

       Without the quran n sunnah u r doomed..without the imaams it will be hard for u to check everything bck to qur’aan n sunnah.. that nasal passage guides air direct to the lungs.. and lungs do the job of purifying..u gt my point?

 

To be fair..i dont hv that much knowledge to understand everything from qur’aan n sunnah.. we cant ignore the gr8 works of Imam Abu Hanifa, Malik, Shafi’i or Ahmad or any other imaam.. May Allah bless them all..

 

        Rather I wont say, follow one imam juz blindly.. thats where we do mistake..when a statement of imam goes clearly against the quran or sunnah.. Allah n His Messenger shld be ur priority… WHY DO YOU WANT TO BREATH COAL N SAY LUNGS WILL DO ITS JOB?

 

       And i wont start blaming that imaam, if he did a mistake..that may be due to many circumstances.

       Doing a mistake is not a mistake. But following that mistake after knowing it as a mistake is a mistake..lol (hope i am nt confusing u)

 

 Thats what we study in our syllabus..there were many circumstances which lead to difference of opinions between the imaams.. if we study their history we will know that if those imaams came to knw something goes against authentic sunnah.. immediately they would hv changed their view..THEN WHY NOT WE?

 

As I am studying fiqh..i can appreciate all the 4 imams .. if u knw..they were students within themselves.. Shafi’i learnt from student of Abu Hanifa , Ahmad learnt from Shafi’i..maa shaa allaah ta’aala..

 

      But now..people say I am a shaafi’i n i dont take anything from Hanafis.. I am Hambali n i dont care abt Malikis..

 

      We r all muslims in the first place.. thats y i don prefer giving me any title.. hanafi, maliki, shafi’i, hambali, wahhabi, salafi whatsoever.. i am a muslim n only a muslim.

Note: I am not saying giving a title next to our name is deviation..I am in no position to say that! For myself I juz don prefer it.

 

      I can agree with all knowledgeable imaams as long as i see their proofs in qur’aan n sunnah n as long as i dont see them in the deviated path..(khawarij, shia etc)..

         

        I dont say all of them except me r deviated a’oodubillaah…bcoz…i am only a bug..which strives n slowly crawls behind our beloved Prophet (sal allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam).

 

       It is Allah who is free of All Mistakes..and it is He to whom we surrender..no help except His help n no protection except His protection..allahumma ameen.

 

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