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Reply to an ‘Atheist’

24 May

Hi,

  My post of the day is actually a reply to one of the comments here in our blog, Do you say ‘NO GOD’?

As it is quite long, I posted it separate.

Submitted on 2011/05/23 at 10:09 pm

“This is going to be a quick post. All the issues you have raised above have already been debunked by many others many times, so I will just be brief. You can get more information by typing in youtube and watching talks by Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens.”

        Thank you for your quick post. If your brief answer is one of the debunks..i will say ‘IT REALLY DIDNT WORK’. Go ahead and read 🙂

“Question 1:
The universe began with the big bang. No one knows, and when I say ‘no one’, I mean NO ONE, knows what happened at and just before the moment of the big bang, but we have a good idea what happened straight after the big bang.”

   No we don’t have! We don’t know exactly which year big bang took place, we don’t know exactly how old is this earth…we don’t know how long this will last. WE DON’T KNOW!
      All we do it assumptions and assumptions have no boundaries.

” Scientists are still working on finding answers, that’s why we have the Large Hydro Collider. Experiments like these will help us understand the Universe as it was straight after the big bang.”

      Yep..thats what i am saying..we will keep on working..and that never ends.. some scientist will say something..and you believe in that. Few years later, another one will pop up and say, “That was wrong!”. Experiments will give a result..bt again you have to ‘just believe’ that result is right 🙂

“I do not know if we’ll ever find out what created the big bang, but like professor Atkins said, to say God did it when we get something we don’t understand, is intellectually laziness.”

      Do you say there is an effect without a cause?
OK this universe was formed from big bang..some thing should have caused that big bang right? Even if you say…’x’ reaction caused big bang.. some thing should have caused that ‘x’ reaction right?
        And this will never end until you admit that THERE IS GOD..What we find is the steps which God made to create this universe. There is definitely a ‘Causer’ behind all these reactions.

 All these amazing things..just came up like a ‘boom’ without any driving force behind it? Even a needle has a maker..what about this universe?
I say ‘denying Him’ is intellectual laziness..not affirming Him.. get a big picture.

          Let’s learn our universe and this will definitely affirm the existence of God, this will never deny Him. You see all those unbelievable reactions and yet you say they came up all by its own? This is intellectual laziness man.

Our intellect is limited, you cannot understand everything…each forward steps you take..u will know there are more and it’s nothing wrong to say, “God did it” because you and I know, “THERE IS GOD”…even if you deny Him outwardly.

“Question 2:
We are the product of a billion years of evolution. It is evident in the fossil records and in our genes. The theory of evolution is a FACT, supported by overwhelming evidence. In fact, we rely on theory of evolution to develop vaccines for diseases and many other scientific applications. Monkey and us share a common ancestor. YouTube “Carl Sagan Evolution”. Also read up on Richard Dawkins book “The Greatest Show on Earth” which explains the evidence for evolution.”

Again monkeys!
Some said monkey is my mother and you say monkey is my brother?

        You can believe monkey is your brother..but you can’t believe you are a separate creation with intellect and free will? weird.
 You have the greatest history but not that animal!

All celebrated Darwin’s theory..and now they say, “it was without any proof”. Again you celebrate some other theory, wait until few years to get the opposite result.
We are human beings, we always err and there is no 100% truth in any so-called theories.

“Question 3:
God exists in the supernatural realm. Most athiests, including myself, don’t believe in the supernatural. So the ‘time is god’ logic is completely flawed.”

         Submission… human beings always submit to something, this is unevitable. We submit to the One who created us provides for us all day and those who deny Him submit to primitive things..it may be time, their own desires, science..anything..! And they put their trust in it.. I say that is their God.

Believing in God is not just enough, submitting to Him is more important.

We put our trust in God and you put your trust in Science.
Remember! Science never denies the existence of God rather it affirms Him..otherwise you won’t be seeing a number of scientists embracing Islam. As you are an user of youtube, I don’t think I should list their names 🙂

“Here you are describing Pascal’s Wager, which states that you should just believe in a god, because if god doesn’t exist, then you’ve lost nothing, but if god exists then you have everything to lose. This, in my opinion, is a horrible and vile reason to believe in anything as it plays on humans fear. Using fear to convince of something as being true.”

     Put it in this way, billions and billions of people believed in God and only a few lakhs, or crores or even say a million denied Him.. who is likely to be correct?

Those billions and billions or a few nuts? Give a second thought.. there is God.

“First, there have been 10,000+ gods in the history of men.”

      If you really ‘studied’ Islaam, you should have known that there is only one God all time. And there was only one God in the beginning of our history (if you believe Adam is the first man, he didn’t worship 10,000+ Gods did he?). There were 10 generations between Adam and Noah where people worshipped the one and only God.

And again, if you have ‘studied’ Islaam, you would have known.. polytheism began during Prophet Noah’s (alaihi salaam) time.
Wadd, Suwaa’, Yaghooth, Ya’ooQ and Nasr these were the five righteous people of Noah’s time. After their death people kept a stone in their meeting place for remembrance. None of that generation worshiped them..but the future generation was deceived by Shaitaan and they started worshiping it.
      This is the beginning of idolatry and polytheism.

This is an age of Science and you need proofs for everything.. who knows people may even ask proof for their father 😦 but still at the end of the day ‘its belief’. You are ‘just believing’ your proofs are right (until someone comes and say it is wrong.. and then u go in a confused state) and ‘I believe’ my scripture is right and no one can confuse me because it is not based on assumption!

My Scripture itself a miracle.. I am personally moved by it’s literature.  Lemme give u an example..
             There are 10 forms of verb (may be there r many but I dont know). For example, if you say ‘he does’ in English, you can say the same thing in 10 different ways in Arabic and each has a different impact and a specific meaning.
     When you take a verse and see a verb there…you will say ‘wowwww’ coz.. it will be in the most suitable form.. and it will have ‘the most powerfull meaning’.
You could have used any of the 10 forms ..bt still it will be in the most correct form..and u cannot choose a better option than that.

If you wanna study Arabic go to Qur’an..and it has merely all rules and perfect lyrics..and subhaanallaah… NO MAN CAN BRING SUCHA BOOK!

All English translations we have is ‘no justice’ you know.. you just translate it generally..bt the arabic words are more specific and have more accurate meanings.
And I can never say ‘an illiterate’ man said all these things. EVEN A LANGUAGE SCHOLAR CAN NEVER BRING SUCHA BOOK!

“You are pretty screwed if you die, get to the gates of heaven, and it turns out Brahman is at the gates and you’ve been worhshipping the wrong god all along.”

  Hehehe..you made me laugh.. if you see what the vedas say..it says the same thing..worship the one and only God who has no beginning, no end, no parents, no children, no idols etc.. and even it talks about the kalki avatar.

     You can call your God as Brahman..we Muslims have no trouble with it but worship Him in the way He said..in the way His Last Prophet did..thats what really matters!

You are worshipping the idols not the Brahman, worship the Brahman guys!

“Also, I’m pretty sure god will be able to see through you if you are just “acting” like you believe in him.”

     lol I’m pretty sure, you believe in the existence of God. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made such statements. So it’s actually: God will be able to see through if u ‘act’ like denying God. Because belief in God is ingrained in our soul. From the primitive tribes to famous scientists all believed in GOD!

We believe in God but we don’t want to obey Him, so we deny Him. Thats the truth actually.

“No rational person can believe in something that is not reasonable to believe in; flying winged horses, virgins giving birth, men flying off into the sky. No sane person of reason can believe in such things.”

   But a sane person believes in the things which he sees in front of his eyes right? The things around you itself proves the existence of God. Nothing can be there without a Creator.

“We are a very curious and inquisitive species. We are always looking for answers and explainations. When mankind didn’t have answers to the germ theory, or the planets and the stars, and why it rained, and why the Sun was bright and yellow and went from one side of the earth to the other side, we inserted God into the equation. God was the default “I don’t know, but God did it” explaination to everything we didn’t understand. Before germ theory, people thought god took revenge and killed people.”

  Again, even if I get those answers it only affirms my faith in God and not the other way round. How amazing these planets and stars are..then how amazing will be the One who created it?

           If you deny God you deny the whole purpose of life you know?
What’s your purpose of life actually? To eat, to sleep, to find out why it is raining, why sun is yellow?

You should do these researches to know the higher purpose of your life. And denying it is actually ‘intellectual laziness’.
Even if u know all about sun..it is going to die oneday..it is going to be nothing one day… why do you care about it so much?  Care about your soul because your soul is gonna be recreated and gonna be judged. The sun is not gonna be judged it’s YOU!

If you say there is no judgement at all, then this clashes with every aspect of life.

Why do I need to be good if there gonna be no judgement? I shall go and steal.
     Why is someone created blind and dumb and others so intelligent?
Why is someone poor and others rich?

       You will not get the answers for these qs if you deny judgement.

You talked about ‘moral’ you know what.. no one will be morally good if they don’t have a little fear that, if they do bad, they are gonna be punished. Even if they escape in this world they will taste it in the Hereafter.And the reality is THERE IS A JUDGEMENT DAY!
And to prepare for that is the highest purpose of life, NOT TO UNDERSTAND WHY EARTH IS REVOLVING!

These are all primitive things, you go besides these things and they are all going to be destroyed one day. All your efforts to understand them is null and void.
            If understanding the ‘Creations’ help you remember your ‘Creator’ go ahead, otherwise you will get to know what you were doing all these days in a day WHERE NO SOUL CAN HELP OTHER 🙂

“At the very start, the most prominant thing in the sky was the Sun, thus the birth of the “Sun God”, which explained to the primitive minds of humans why the sun went down and came back up again; God went away at night, and arose again during the day.”

    Sun was not the first worshiped thing, it was the ‘One and Only real true God’. Who did Adam worship? sun or Allah?

You reminded me Prophet Abraham’s (alaihi salaam) story.. He knew that stones can never be his God and saw the sun to be most powerful. But when there was no sun in night, he said, “this can’t be my God!”

“When he saw the rising sun, he said, “This is my Lord for it is greater (than the others).” But when this too faded away, (Abraham) said, “My people, I disavow whatever you consider equal to God.” [AlQur’aan Chapter ‘The Cattles’ 6:78]

Lets not worship the creation of Allah, lets worship Him alone.

“And from among His Signs are the night and the day, and the sun and the moon. Prostrate not to the sun nor to the moon, but prostrate to Allah Who created them, if you (really) worship Him.” [AlQur’aan Chapter ‘Explained in detail’ 41:37]

” That say primitive way of understanding exists today, when even in the face of so much scientific reasoning and explaination, and so much evidence, people still try to explain the unknown by saying “God did it”.”

        I think I answered this, even if I get to know the unknown I will still say, “God did it” because He did it right!
Whatever we find is the steps of how God did it.. step 1 this step 2 this ..so on..but at the end ‘God did it’.

As I said..we can never fully understand the way how God did everything. We take one step forward and will find there are many more to go.. we keep on running behind it and all of sudden everything will be destroyed including you and me!

And then we will be raised up and questioned! No injustice will be done to any soul 🙂

And then we may think..I should have planned how to spend my time, subhaanallaah.

“And they will say, “If only we had been listening or reasoning, we would not be among the companions of the Blazing Fire.” [AlQur’aan Chapter ‘The Dominion’ 67:10]

Islaam doesn’t say you should believe blindly. Listen and reason.. reasoning will never deny the presence of God, it only affirms it!

“And lastly, you don’t need to scare people into believing in a god, it’s a poor reason and not evidence that god exists.”

          What to do..sometimes ‘truth is a bit scary’. We know it’s gonna happen, instead of denying it ‘No NO NOO’ and getting destroyed when it actually happens..lets prepare ourselves and face the terror.. because IT IS GOING TO HAPPEN.

“I will leave with this quote from Epicurus, the greek philosopher from ~300BC:

“Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able?
Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing?
Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing?
Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing?
Then why call him God?””

    This poem is based on God Vs Evil.. mostly all other religions say this.. they bring an opponent to God, God Vs Devil.

But Islaam is the ONLY religion which says, there is no opponent to God. Nothing can dare to oppose Him.

it is not God Vs Shaitaan, Shaitaan will never ever think to go 101 with God..
it’s Man Vs Shaitan..Shaitaan is not God’s enemy, he is our enemy.

“Indeed, Satan is an enemy to you; so take him as an enemy. He only invites his party to be among the companions of the Blazing Fire.” [AlQur’aan Chapter ‘The Originator’ 35:6]

See God says Shaitaan is our enemy…he is not God’s enemy. he was a pious slave of Allah and now he is going to hell because of ‘us’ (not really us but because of his pride) bt he thinks he goes to hell because of us and he wants to take us with him. What an evil enemy!

      God does nothing purely evil, we have good in everything. Shaitan decieved Adam and as a result Adam learnt the ‘greatest form of worship’ ‘REPENTANCE’.
Decieving is bad but repentace is the best.

           So in and of itself this poem is a crap, diseased by unislamic faith. 🙂

Also read, ‘Why should I believe in God?’

Hope I answered you to my best!

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A Delay in Prayer

22 May

There was only 15 minutes left before Salat-ul Isha.

He quickly made Wudhu and performed Salat-ul Maghrib.

While making Tasbih, he again remembered his grandmother and was embarrassed by how he had prayed.His grandmother prayed with such tranquillity and peace.

He began making Dua and went down to make Sajdah and stayed like that for a while.

He had been at work all day and was tired, so tired.
He awoke abruptly to the sound of noise and shouting.
He was sweating profusely.
He looked around.
It was very crowded.

Every direction he looked in was filled with people.
Some stood frozen looking around, some were running left and right and some were on their knees with their heads in their hands just waiting.
Pure fear and apprehension filled him as he realized where he was.
His heart was about to burst.

It was the Day of Judgment!

When he was alive, he had heard many things about the questioning on the Day of Judgment, but that seemed so long ago.

Could this be something his mind made up?

No, the wait and the fear were so great that he could not have imagined this.

The interrogation was still going on.
He began moving frantically from people to people to ask if his name had been called.
No one could answer him.

All of a sudden his name was called and the crowd split into two and made a passageway for him.
Two angels grabbed his arms and led him forward.
He walked with unknowing eyes through the crowd.
The angels brought him to the centre and left him there.
With his head down his whole life was passing in front of his
eyes like a movie.

He opened his eyes but saw only another world.

People were helping others.
He saw his father running from one lecture to the other, spending his
wealth in the way of Islam.
His mother invited guests to their house and one table was being set
while the other was being cleared.

He pleaded his case, I too was always on this path.
I helped others and spread the word of Allah.
I performed my Salah. I fasted in the month of Ramadhan.
Whatever Allah ordered us to do, I did.
Whatever he ordered us not to do, I did not.’
He began to cry and thought about how much he loved Allah.
He knew whatever he had done in life would be less than what Allah deserved and his only protector was Allah.

He was sweating like never before and was shaking all over.
His eyes were fixed on the scale, waiting for the final decision.

At last, the decision was made.

The two angels with sheets of paper in their hands turned to the crowd.
His legs felt like they were going to collapse.
He closed his eyes as they began to read the names of those people who were to enter Jahannam.

His name was read first.

He fell on his knees and yelled that this couldn’t be, ‘How could I go to Jahannam?


I served others all my life, I spread the word of Allah to others’.
His eyes had become blurry and he was shaking with sweat.

The two angels took him by the arms.

As his feet dragged, they went through the crowd and advanced toward the blazing flames of Jahannam.
He was yelling and wondered if there was any person who was going to help him.
He was yelling of all the good deeds he had done, how he had helped his father, his fasts, prayers, the Noble Qur’an that he read, he was asking if none of them would help him.

The Jahannam angels continued to drag him.
They had gotten closer to the Hellfire. He looked back and these were his last pleas.

Had not Rasulullah [salallaahu alaihi wasallam] said,
‘How clean would a person be who bathes in a river five times a day, so too does the Salah performed five times cleanse someone of their sins’

He began yelling, ‘My prayers? My prayers? My prayers.?’

The two angels did not stop, and they came to the edge of the abyss of Jahannam.
The flames of the fire were burning his face. He looked back one last time, but his eyes were dry of hope and he had nothing left in him.

One of the angels pushed him in. He found himself in the air and falling towards the flames.

He had just fallen five or six feet when a hand grabbed him by the arm and pulled him back.


He lifted his head and saw an old man with a long white beard.
He wiped some dust off himself and asked him, ‘Who are you?’

The old man replied, ‘I am your prayers’.

‘Why are you so late? I was almost in the Fire! You rescued me at the last minute before I fell in’.

The old man smiled and shook his head,
‘You always performed me at the last minute, did you forget?’ (And what of those who perform no prayers at all?)

At that instant, he blinked and lifted his head from Sajdah. He was in a sweat.
He listened to the voices coming from outside. He heard the Adhan for Salat-ul Isha and got up quickly and went to perform Wudhu.

Hope it helps open our eyes InshaAllah.

Original post found in http://www.blog.iloveallah.com

ATTENTION: This is only an imaginary fiction. THE TERROR OF JUDGEMENT DAY IS IN NO WAY COMPARABLE TO THIS!



Tafseer and Hifdh of Soorah Maryam by E-jaazah.com -DONT MISS IT!

9 May

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You started.

Day 1 was great!

Day 2 was good.

Day 3 was so-so.

Day 4 was a weekend day so you gave yourself the day off.

Day 5 was another weekend day (day off).

Days 6-9 saw the dismantling of your determination and quiet exit from another attempt to memorize (I hope my wife doesn’t say anything to embarrass me)

Sound familiar? I know all too well! Being a native English speaker, the Qur’an was always difficult for me to memorize because I didn’t adequately understand what was being said.

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   If Allah gives us an oppurtunity to learn His Deen, never ever miss it. What is more important than learning the Qur’aan in our life?

         I am in!! YOU??

     

How to Memorize AlQur’an at Age 7!

1 May

 

This is a very inspiring story for those of us who ‘strive’ to memorize the words of Allaah and for those who strive to make their children memorize it.

        I read this ‘WORD BY WORD’  and hope you would do too!

One Mother’s Recipe on how she accomplished it with her daughter!
Commentary by Muhammad Alshareef

[Chapter 1]My SMART Result
What was the mother specifically aiming to achieve?

My SMART Result:

I was specifically aiming for her to memorize all the Qur’an in about 3 years (as I had heard that people normally finish in 3-5 years). However, she finished in 2.5 alhamdullilah.

I had different targets during this time. In the beginning I had no target. Once we got the hang of it (after about 5 juz) we targeted one juz a month (which was a page/day).

By the end, though, my target was to do a juz a week.

[Commentary]
1. Notice how even though it was her daughter that was memorizing, SHE adopted the goals as
if it were her own. Awesome.
2. Notice as well that she adjusted her specific results as time went by. She was flexible. When
her daughter got stronger, she adjusted her results to match that strength.


[Chapter 2] My Purpose
Why was this goal of her daughter memorizing the Qur’an at such a young age an absolute must?

My Purpose

Overview:
1. Why was this an absolute MUST! What this meant to me
2. Life taught me
3. Dream Bigger Dreams

[I ALWAYS WANTED IT]

I always wanted all my children to be huffadh, [ROLE MODEL] like Umm Sulaim’s
sons, radiAllahu anhum. However, I never thought that I will end up teaching them myself. I was waiting for a madrasah to start in our city for girls, when my husband suggested that I should try doing it at home until something starts for girls. Although, it was a very informal suggestion but it actually turned practical only by the permission of Allah.

[BEST GIFT PARENT CAN GIVE]

I think this is the best gift parents can offer to their children.

[SUCCESS OF HEREAFTER MOST IMPORTANT]

To me, true love is not when you want to see your child successful in this dunya only, but to see their ultimate success, which is the success of the akhira. And if they get that then it automatically offers the success of this dunya too, bi idhniAllah.

Often times, as parents, we limit our vision for our kids within the bounds of this
dunya alone. We want more and more for our children for this dunya.

From the day they are born, we start setting ‘high goals’ for them, from having good education, to best job, to big house and a latest model car etc. etc. and it never ends.

[OTHERS HAVE SMALL DREAMS FOR ISLAM, NOT ME]

Why then we don’t have the same standards for the akhira?! Will we ever
compromise with just elementary school education for our children? Why then just once-a-week-Sunday school suffice us? Will we ever let them stop with a high school diploma? Why then only 5 daily prayers, fasting in Ramadan, giving zakah and offering one hajj makes us happy?! Why say ‘ that as long as they enter jannah…’?! Why not, ‘ I want my children to enter Jannat-ul-Firdous and not just jannah, I want my child to be standing among the Sahaba, in the company of the Prophet sallahualaihi wasalam on the Day of Judgement (inshaAllah) and not just with regular Muslims’. Why do we have limited goals for our children for their akhira and unlimited for the dunya!

[ULTIMATE GOAL: LEARNING THE DEEN OF ALLAH]

And that is perhaps why memorizing Qur’an was a baby step towards making her learn the deen of Allah.

[FILL THEIR BRAINS WITH THE MOST PRECIOUS OF KNOWLEDGE, THE QURAN]

If we are given an empty shelf to decorate, we will start by putting the more
expensive and valuable materials in the front and then if we have space left we will put the extra things, and to me this is exactly how the children are. They are given to us with empty minds and it is our, parents, responsibility to fill our children’s brain with something valuable first.

[ROLE MODELS, IMAM AHMAD’S MOTHER]

Among the heroes of Islam, 3 men were always very inspiring to me: Imam Ahmad, Ibn Taymiyyah and Sh. Bin Baz (rahimuhullah). And Imam Ahmad was a prime example of not only a hufidh in young age but even his mother’s role was such a big inspiration.

[I DID THIS BECAUSE WHEN I START SOMETHING I FINISH IT, IT’S MY IDENTITY]

Why was I so bent on her finishing at a young age.because this is just how I am. When I start something believing in it, I just can’t stop in the middle. And I must admit that when I started with my daughter it was like throwing an arrow in the dark. I only got more encouraged we went along. I started with her when she was 5. She was in 1st grade home school. I figured that even if it takes her 3 years to memorize and she misses out on homeschooling, she will still not be behind in her secular studies.

[LESSONS ALONG THE PATH]

And the more my daughter kept memorizing the more I realized that:

* Small children are easy to please. Small rewards mean a lot to them and they are satisfied with little. Whereas older children have ‘bigger’ demands.

* Younger children’s world revolves around their parents. Honestly, sometimes
even just offering to give her 10 kisses will motivate her to finish her lesson! I don’t think this would have worked with an older child!

* Small children (especially those who have not been to school) don’t know what they miss out by staying home. Older children (especially teenagers) know the ‘fun’ of outside world and it is tougher for them to sacrifice.

* Small children are easy to discipline, intimidate and control.

* I believed that whatever a child memorizes in an early age is not easily
forgettable. And besides, if she finishes in an early age, she will have a LOT of time to review and the more she reviews the stronger it will stay in her memory,
inshaAllah.

[MEMORZING QURAN WAS “NOT” THE ULTIMATE GOAL, THERE WAS SOMETHING BIGGER]

Besides, I had a bigger goal in my mind (may Allah az Zawjal accepts it and make her successful). As I said, memorization of Qur’an was just the first step. I wanted her to do memorize Bukhari and Muslim as well. I thought it will take a lot of time and our lives are short, so the sooner the better.

Although, now she is memorizing Bulugh-ul-Maram and Riyadh-us-Saliheen (sh.
Yasir suggested these books instead of Bukhari & Muslim). She alternates between two books, one baab from each.

[IMPLEMENTATION OF HIGHER DREAM]

She also had the opportunity to travel to Egypt last year and stayed there for the summer. She attended Cairo Institute. Now she is continuing with the same institute through the internet & webcam. She has the same teacher as she had in Egypt and it is walhamdullialh working out great. She can speak fushah Arabic now. They have a total of 12 levels of the course, she just finished her 7th level. Now inshaAllah she will be doing ‘balagha’ which her teacher said is the most difficult and goes into the Qur’anic style Arabic. I recommend this institute to all the parents!

[Chapter 3] My Massive Action Plan
What were the top 10 things she did to reach the end zone?


My Massive Action Plan
Overview:

1. The top 12 massive actions I took
2. The 80/20 rule: The 2 most important actions
3. Final Advice

1. [NO.1 MAKE DUA!]

Make du’a: and by Allah, if it wasn’t for His Mercy, this would have never happened. The days I would forget to make du’a, that day would be terrible.

It is a weapon of every believer and a ‘special’ weapon of every mother! So as
much as she uses it, it will only help her and her child.

2. [CHILD KNOWS REWARD AND HAS PURPOSE]

Motivation (hers and mine): Constantly reminding her why she was doing it, reading her the meaning of her lesson, talking much about Jannah and jahannum. As My daughter says that had she not knew the reward, she would have never done it. (And yes, the parents need to realize that the children, even as small as 5, can have a good concept of Jannah and hellfire).


3. [CELEBRATIONS]

Positive reinforcement: Set up a reward system. She had a daily reward, weekly
reward and ‘juz’ reward. Daily reward was necessary because small children can’t focus for too long. So to make her wait for the whole week was not working out.

We strictly followed the madni mushaf and went by lines. For every line she
memorized, she would get 10c and this was to encourage her to take more new
lesson. (when she started taking a lot, I started rewarding by page!! )

Weekly reward: if she won’t take any days off and finish her lesson throughout the week, she will get to go somewhere ‘fun’ on the weekend. Sometimes, that ‘fun’ place was simply going to a relative’s house (as I said, ‘smaller children are easier to please’).

And for every juz she memorized, she will get a party where all her friends will
come over, play games, eat and she would get gifts.


4. [START AT FAJR]

Waking up after fajr. I didn’t realize the barakah in time until I actually started
waking my daughter up early to do her lesson. If we hadn’t done this, she might
have still be memorizing.


5. [DISCIPLINE]

Fear factor: I still don’t know if this is the right thing to do or not. I could’ve been more patient. But I don’t know if there was only love and reward and no
‘intimidation’ then how successfully we would have achieved this task.

If she wouldn’t finish her lesson, she wouldn’t get to play outside or ride her bike etc. She was punished but I would always talk to her later about the importance of finishing what she was supposed to do each day. And I tried not link the punishment to the Qur’an rather to her discipline and misbehaving.

Also, being strict helps because otherwise when a mother is also a teacher,
children like to beg and nag for smaller lesson or days off and act ‘spoiled’.


6. [CONSTANT REMINDER OF OBJECTIVE *Important]

Encouragement: Everything that was done for her during these 2.5 years, was
associated to her memorizing Qur’an. Even if I cooked something that she liked
was because ‘she was memorizing Qur’an’. Reminding her throughout the day that she was special because she was doing something special and not everyone gets to do it. (But at the same time, kept reminding her that she was doing this to please Allah alone)


7. [SPECIAL REWARDS]

More rewards: these were the ‘special’ rewards from her father and she did take
them very seriously. These were set after every 5 juz.

When she had last 15 juz left, we motivated her with a ‘big party’ not only with her friends but this time she would even get to invite their parents and she got VERY excited! SubhanAllah she was really looking forward to it and finished 15 juz in 3 months!


8. [UNBREAKABLE SCHEDULE]

Discipline: A schedule was set up. We wouldn’t go any where during the day time (usually until 5pm), no phone calls, no social activities except for the halqah, doctor’s appointments etc.


9. [REAL LOVE: YOU’LL THANK ME ONE DAY]

I don’t know what to call this. Regardless of all the encouragement, rewards AND intimidation, some days (or should I say many days) I would have to simply ‘force’ her to memorize and review. This is where the ‘fear factor’ comes in handy. I would just tell her that inshaAllah one day she will appreciate what she was doing. And perhaps this is where I had to be more disciplined and strong and didn’t give in.


10. [PEP TALKS]

Good communication: This was not only good for my daughter but even for me.
Whenever, I was not able to be patient with her, talking to her about it later on only relieved my guilt feelings. This may not seem so important but I believe that it makes a big difference.


11. [ACCEPT FEEDBACK]

I never discouraged questions or complaints from her so I knew exactly what would be going through her mind, and I would talk to her about it. Like why she was unable to play like neighbor’s children outside, or why she couldn’t go to school, or why she was the only one memorizing etc.


12. [COMMUNICATE INTENTIONS AND PURPOSE]

Especially the year before she finished, I had gotten very busy with my own studies and dawah events and ended up wasting a lot of her time. Then right after the conference finished, I felt so guilty and promised myself to make it up to her. So I dropped everything that I was involved in and completely concentrated on my daughter. I had a long conversation with her and I explained to her that we had wasted a lot of time and she was able to do much more then what she was doing, so why not increase our lesson but It will require some sacrifice from her and I explained to her that she may not be able to play as much as she used to, or go out as much or spend her weekends at grandma’s etc.

I think when adults communicate with the children and explain to them why they are doing certain things, the children feel the ‘responsibility’ of doing what the adults are asking them to do.

And I do believe that the communication with her helped a lot because she knew exactly why she had to be on a very rigorous schedule of 8am to 8pm (in
the last few months) And subhanAllah she did move from on page/day to 2/day to 3/day to 4/day and finally 9/day)


[THE 80/20 MOST IMPORTANT: DUA AND FAJR]

The top two actions will be: making du’a and starting lesson after fajr.


[GOT A BOY?]

There is just one thing that I must mention though. All my experience is with a girl. Now that my son is memorizing, I feel like boys are very different from girls-good and bad.


[FINAL ADVICE: PARENTS MUST BE RIGHTEOUS]

And although you didn’t ask for this but there is just one thing I want to say:

During all this time of memorization (and of course even after this) parents must
watch out their own actions too because this is not only an achievement
for the child but it is a blessing and Rahma of Allah to be a parent of someone who has memorized the Qur’an and this blessing is not given to everyone. A wrong action on parent’s part may affect the child too. We must improve our actions and we must keep our intentions pure so our children can turn out even better, inshaAllah.

P.S. One more thing. I don’t have a TV at home but once in a while I do let my children watch something on computer DVD.

But whenever My daughter would watch something, the next she would have a hard time doing her lesson and I would regret why I let her watch the cartoon! So minimize the TV in their lives when they are memorizing Qur’an (and even afterwards!)

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